How to choose your wedding ring (for women)

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In my experience, designing wedding rings for women is often a simpler job than it is for men. This is because the design is usually somewhat dictated by the engagement ring. The other difference is that the majority of women have worn jewellery before and therefore have an idea of their taste and style. However, regardless of this, it can still seem quite daunting to choose a ring you plan on wearing for the rest of your life, and there are so many styles to choose from. I have written this guide to help ease this process and to demonstrate some of the options available to you.

1. To fit or not to fit, that is the question

The first thing you should do when planning your wedding ring is to check whether your engagement ring needs a fitted wedding ring to slot against it or follow its shape. If your engagement ring has a twist or asymmetric shape – like the one Michelle designed with me (below) – then you will need to think about a fitted wedding ring. Also, if the setting style means a flat band won’t sit comfortably next to the engagement ring, then you might want to consider other designs besides a straightforward unshaped wedding band.

The best way to test this if you are unsure is to put an unshaped ring on next to your engagement ring; see if it tucks under or next to the setting in your engagement ring, or whether it rocks against a protruding setting shape.

A shaped wedding ring doesn’t appeal to everyone as some women have concerns about how they might look if worn without the engagement ring. However, not all engagement rings will require a dramatically shaped wedding ring design. Here are some subtle shaped examples that could work with your engagement ring:

2. Metal

Do you want your wedding ring to match your engagement ring? The vast majority of brides prefer to match their wedding ring metal to their engagement ring, but occasionally I meet a bride who wants a distinct colour contrast. There is no right or wrong decision – it’s your wedding ring, so have what you want!

Take a look at this page to find out more about the precious metals.

3. Width

The most obvious way to decide on the width of your wedding ring is to match that of your engagement ring. I tend to measure the width at the sides and back to match it for brides who want a matched width for their wedding ring.

However, it is not a hard and fast rule that your wedding ring should match your engagement ring in this way. My engagement ring is very slim at 2mm wide but my wedding ring is slightly thicker at 2.5mm. I chose this because I wanted to fit some diamonds into my wedding ring and a bit more width gave me the space to achieve this comfortably.

I recently designed a very chunky wedding ring with Jasmine who felt a wide ring suited her hand better and would give her more space to fit some intricate engraving. She wanted a definite contrast to her engagement ring which is fairly slim and felt she may wear the wedding ring on its own day to day.

The best way to make your decision on width is to try on bands of different thicknesses and see how they look and feel on your hand. Consider how wide the two rings will be overall when worn together and how much space you have beneath your knuckle. Also, think about whether you might want to leave room to stack an eternity ring in the future.

4. Profile

The profile refers to the cross-section shape of the band. Your choice of the profile for your ring will depend on a couple of things:

Firstly, do you want to match your engagement ring profile to give a sense of unity between the rings? You absolutely do not have to match it, but try to complement your existing ring’s shape. If you have a rounded engagement ring, a flat shape might not look right next to it. My engagement ring has a halo profile whereas my wedding ring has a court profile, but they work well together as both have a gentle curve. See this page for more information about the various profiles.

If you think you might wear your wedding ring on its own, matching your engagement ring is less important. Equally, you may have skipped the engagement ring altogether. So in this case, you can start from scratch and think about the modernity of the design you are after – flatter profiles tend to look more contemporary whereas softer and more curved shapes look more classic. Curved profiles trick the eye into thinking the band is slimmer, so your choice of profile can have an influence on the band width you choose.

Lastly, consider how comfortable your choice of profile may be. Flatter and slimmer profiles tend to feel less bulky between the fingers but a curved interior to the profile can feel less restrictive and therefore more comfortable. If you go for a flat outer profile, you can always hide a curve on the inside for increased comfort.

5. Depth

The depth of the band refers to the thickness of the metal. Although you might go for a contrasting width or profile, I would advise sticking to the same depth as your engagement ring. This will give a sense of unity and will help them to sit comfortably together. Some engagement rings deepen at the front towards the setting. I match the depth at the sides and back to make sure they look right together at the side of the finger.

6. Additional design features

You might like to add some design details to make the ring unique to you or match it to the style of your engagement ring. Charmaine’s pretty engagement ring above will be joined by a matching diamond-studded wedding ring when she marries Lee next Summer, but a plain band would look just as good. Only you know how ‘matched’ you want your set to be, so go with what makes you happy!

You might like to introduce an engraved design or a combination of several embellishments – the choice is yours! The best thing to do is to look around and see if any particular style grabs your eye.

If you like the idea of having a secret design feature on the inside of your ring, engraving and flush set gemstones can be hidden inside the ring should you wish.

You can find out more about the various band design options on this page.


I hope that this article provides some structure to the thought process about your special ring and helps make the concept of choosing a wedding ring seem less daunting. Why not take a look at some of the designs I have made in the past for some ideas and get in touch if you would like to discuss having your unique ring made.

You may also find our man’s guide to choosing a wedding ring helpful. 

4 Comments on “How to choose your wedding ring (for women)”

  1. I’m glad you talked about wedding rings and their designs. Recently, my girlfriend and I got engaged, and we couldn’t be happier about it! We’re excited to start planning the wedding, and we think your article will help us with one of the most important parts! Thanks for the information on how to choose a wedding ring based on your engagement one.

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